The two observances- International Men’s Day (19 November)
and Universal Children’s Day (20 November) are closely linked. Firstly, International
Men’s Day focuses on the role of men in the family, in the wider society, and
at the national level. Also, it highlights the awesome responsibility of men to
maintain the highest standards in morality and integrity in personal and public
life. Let us be mindful of the place of men in today’s world. You may not fully
agree with James Brown, an Afro-American singer and songwriter (dubbed the
"Godfather of Soul") who popularized a song that was co-written by a
woman –Betty Jean Newsome in 1966. The song is entitled "It’s a Man’s World’
(also known as ‘It's A Man's, Man's,Man's World’) and the chorus echoes:
This is a man's world
This is a man's world
But it wouldn't be nothing
Nothing without a woman or a girl
Indeed, the closing lines of this song are also very relevant today for men and women:
Oh how, how man needs a woman
I sympathize with the man that don't have a woman
He's lost in the wilderness He's lost in bitterness
He's lost in loneliness
Yes, this is a man’s world, but as Brown’s song reminds us-
without a woman or a girl man is lost in the wilderness and bitterness. Due to
man’s significant place in world affairs, it still seems as ‘a man’s world’.
In ancient and modern cultures, Man has held and holds the world’s
destiny. It cannot be denied that Man is the war-maker and peace maker. Man
determines the course of history. In the past and today, most of the world’s
leaders and lawmakers are men. This is not a recent phenomenon but part of the
development of our society that reflects patriarchy. The irony of the situation
is that some persons believe that because patriarchy exists or that men are
leaders and decision makers, then boys are fine and protected. This is a false
notion. In a male-dominated society, there are many boys and teenagers
who are marginalized, alienated and left behind.
Who is to blame for patriarchy? It is difficult to pinpoint
one culprit. A host of factors such as environment, education, religion,
culture, ideology, traditions and customs have contributed to this scenario. A
few might even argue that genetics is a contributor. It is difficult to quickly
dismantle patriarchy because it has become entrenched within the power
structures of our world. How significant is Universal Children’s Day? It is
very important for creating a fresh generation of boys and girls. There is an
urgent need to prepare the boy child who will share in a role as tomorrow’s
mover and shaker in society. In the Caribbean, regular examination results from
secondary and tertiary institutions indicate a steady decline in academic
performance among boys. This is linked to feelings of inadequacy that has
become embedded in the psyche of our boys. Yes, the inferiority complex
and underachievement prevalent among our boys are neither urban legends nor
myths. It’s a reality!
Other statistics paint a morbid and frightening picture. On
the media, there are regular incidents in which young, misguided boys and
teenagers are involved in crime and violence. It is one of the Caribbean’s most
challenging social problems. Not surprisingly, this is also a problem plaguing
other nations across the globe.
There is little room for debate when I write- we need to
save the boy child. We need to protect the boy child from the harmful
influences of society. There is an urgent need to focus on the home and school
as we save the boy child. The boy child lives in a turbulent social environment
that makes him vulnerable to a multitude of negative forces. If a boy child is
neglected or fed a diet of hate and violence it is obvious he will develop into
a teenager who is misguided and confused. And the next crucial transition into
manhood will be even more difficult.
Protecting the girl child is equally important. Some of us
would be aware that since 2012, the United Nations marks 11 October as the
"International Day of the Girl Child". The
obvious question is – why have we not dedicated a day that focuses on the Boy
Child? We must not allow the continued imbalance of the gender scale. We
cannot ignore that without a focus on both the boy child and girl child, then
gender equality is not a reality.
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